Collegetopia turned 3 years old this month.
Pretty crazy how fast time flies.
I had just finished my sophomore year at USC when I bought the domain name for Collegetopia and published my first post. Little did I know that it would literally end up changing the course of my life.
This blog has been the driving force behind all of the positive changes in my life over the last 3 years, and as I’ve said before, every year for the last 3 years has been the best year of my life.
My life isn’t perfect, but it’s pretty fucking awesome and I owe so much of that to this blog.
I almost wasn’t going to write about this because I didn’t want to be self-indulgent, but I figured this would be a good opportunity for me to 1) thank you for reading Collegetopia and 2) share a few lessons I’ve learned from my 3 years of blogging.
Let’s start with the lessons (I probably could’ve come up with at least 20 more things, but I think these are the 3 biggest ones).
1. Force yourself to start.
There’s always going to be an excuse for you to not do the things you want to do.
But if not today, when?
You’re never going to be ready, and you’re never going to “feel” like it.
And the longer you wait, the more you hesitate, the more likely you’ll never do it.
“Tomorrow” is code for never.
The hardest part (at least for me) is always getting started, so just get started.
It’s now or never.
I’m serious. As soon as you start overthinking it, it’s game over.
Don’t allow yourself to lose before you’ve even tried. Do whatever it takes to FORCE yourself to take action.
Do whatever it takes.
Stop waiting for the perfect time to be the person you want to be, because there will never, ever, ever be a perfect time.
2. Play the long game.
Whenever someone asks me if they should start a blog, I say yes.
Immediately afterward, the excuses start to roll in.
“But there are so many blogs out there already… Everyone else is already doing it… What would I even write about…”
And you know what, they’re right. There are a million blogs out there already.
But, and this is a very big but, most of those blogs are inactive, or will be soon. Most people who start a blog give up within the first 3 months.
The problem with our society is that everyone’s always looking for short cuts.
Most people don’t just want to succeed. They want to succeed quickly.
But no one who succeeded ever got there quickly. Nothing great was ever achieved overnight, and everything that was ever achieved overnight never lasted very long.
Good things take time.
So, if you want to succeed, stop looking for short cuts and prepare your mind for the long haul.
Instead of trying to take big giant steps, focus on taking small, consistent steps over long periods of time.
The key to success is making incremental improvements every single day.
Just like interest, small improvements compound over time.
Small things eventually lead to big things. But it takes time.
Most view this as bad news. But I view it as good news.
Because it means that you don’t have to be the best. You just have to able to last longer than everyone else.
3. Do things that scare you (and stop trying to please everyone).
This is kind of two lessons in one, but they go hand in hand.
Let’s talk about part 1 first: doing things that scare you.
Here’s the thing. Anytime you do anything that’s a break from your normal routine, it’s going to be uncomfortable, and maybe even a little scary.
If you’re 100% happy with your life and don’t want to change anything at all about it, then fine. Stick to your routine.
But if you do want to make any changes in your life, and you do want something you’ve never had before, then you’re going to have to do something you’ve never done before.
In other words, you’re going to have to do something that’s going to be uncomfortable.
The things that are most uncomfortable and that scare you the most are the things that will make the biggest difference. If you don’t feel anything, then it’s probably not worth doing.
For example, being vulnerable and sharing your art with the world not knowing how they’re going to respond can be terrifying. But it’s also extremely liberating.
Similarly, it can be scary for me to sometimes go out on a limb and say something that I know not everyone will like or agree with.
But if it’s something that, deep down, I know I must say, well, I embrace the discomfort and say it anyway.
If you can’t fully express yourself or act in a way that’s true to your self because you’re always trying to please everyone, you’ll never succeed.
We all want to be liked, but trying to please everyone is the surest path to failure. No matter how hard you try, you’ll never win that way. The sooner you realize this, the better off you’ll be.
Just do the scary thing, do the right thing, be consistent, and the rest will take care of itself.
Anyway, just some thoughts I wanted to share with you.
And in case you missed them, here are some of the top posts from this past year, as well as some of my personal favorites that didn’t make it in the top 5 (clicking each link opens a new tab).
Top 5 Posts of 2015-2016
- How To Stop Overthinking And Figure Out What To Do With Your Life
- 2016: The Year of Focus (+ A New 30 Day Challenge)
- Top 5 Time Management Tips For Those Who Don’t Have Enough Time In The Day
- Why You Should Stop Trying To Find Your Passion (And What You Should Do Instead)
- The 5-Minute Exercise That Can Change Your Life
Personal Favorites of 2015-2016
- How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over & Get Anything You Want
- The Single Biggest Regret Of The Dying
- 31 Things You Need To Know About Me
- I Got Fired This Week (And It Was One Of The Best Feelings In The World)
- 8 Life Lessons Learned From Traveling To 8 Countries In 3 Weeks
To view the blog’s all-time top posts, check out the Start page.
Thank You (& A Quick Question)!
Finally, whether you’ve been here since the beginning or this is your first time ever reading one of my articles, I just want to take a second to say THANK YOU.
Thank you for giving me your time, for being here, reading and engaging on my posts, emailing me questions, letting me share my thoughts with you, and making all of this possible. It seriously means the world to me.
I hope you’ve found my articles worth your time, and if you have, I’d really appreciate it if you took a minute to let me know:
- What are some of the biggest lessons you’ve learned from Collegetopia?
- Bonus (optional) question: What topics would you like to see more of on Collegetopia in the future?
Please do me a favor and leave a comment letting me know!
And if you ever have any questions about anything, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m here for you.
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