All human actions are motivated at their deepest level by one of two emotions–fear or love. In truth there are only two emotions–only two words in the language of the soul…. Fear wraps our bodies in clothing, love allows us to stand naked. Fear clings to and clutches all that we have, love gives all that we have away. Fear holds close, love holds dear. Fear grasps, love lets go. Fear rankles, love soothes. Fear attacks, love amends.”
This quote comes from a book called Conversations with God by Neale Donal Walsch.
I read this book after my freshman year, and it transformed my life.
I won’t go into the details of the book, but this quote — the idea that all human actions ultimately stem from love or fear — is something that has stuck with me ever since I first read it.
Some people might think that the opposite of love is hate, but it’s not. You see, hate stems from fear.
The things we “hate” are usually nothing more than self-reflections of our own weaknesses – greediness, dishonesty, insincerity.
We hate these things because we fear becoming them ourselves.
And while there’s no way to avoid all the emotions of fear (such as anger, frustration, anxiety), the problem arises when we let these emotions dictate our actions.
Think about all the things you would do if you didn’t feel fear.
Think about all the things you would do if you didn’t have to worry about money.
Think about all the things you would do if there were no consequences for trying something new and failing miserably.
I might be wrong, but I think the number one cause of failure — of depressing lives and unfulfilled destinies — is fear.
That’s why this year I want to focus on being more courageous.
The Year of Courage
It takes courage to ask for help.
It takes courage to know what you want and make it known.
It takes courage to say “no.”
It takes courage to be willing to do what’s hard.
It takes courage to be honest with ourselves.
It takes courage to be honest with others.
It takes courage to fire people who don’t contribute to the dream.
It takes courage to recognize our faults.
It takes courage to work on our weaknesses.
It takes courage to admit we are wrong.
It takes courage to make mistakes.
It takes courage to learn from our mistakes.
It takes courage to demand more of ourselves.
It takes courage to defy the odds.
It takes courage to change our beliefs.
It takes courage to learn new skills.
It takes courage to quit bad habits and create good habits.
It takes courage to quit a job.
It takes courage to start a business.
It takes courage to start a blog.
It takes courage to put ourselves out there.
It takes courage to be open and honest about what we like.
It takes courage to travel.
It takes courage to see the good in the bad.
It takes courage to choose delayed gratification.
It take courage to believe that you were born to be successful.
The Year of Embracing Your Fears
Fear is not bad. Fear is good. Fear tells us what we have to do.
I’m reading a book right now called The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, and in it Pressfield says that the more scared we are of doing something, the more certain we can be that we have to do it.
I love this, because it’s so true.
When it comes to doing things, we feel fear most towards the things that will help us grow the most. If we don’t feel anything, it’s because it doesn’t mean anything to us.
Use this knowledge to your advantage.
This year, instead of running away from your fears, use your fears as a compass to guide you towards the things that, deep down, you know you have to do.
Instead of acting out of fear, practice acting in spite of fear.” – Tweet This
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